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Sadness and Loss Tapping Script

by Alice Bradshaw
62 minutes
Sadness and Loss Tapping Script

One of the hardest things for me during the pandemic has been losing the freedom to do things whenever and however I want. Even simple things such as going for a coffee with a friend, or dropping by a friend’s house for an impromptu play date for our children have been unavailable for a whole year now. It is of course an opportunity to really appreciate things which perhaps I took for granted before and didn’t really savour at the time, and also has to be put in perspective by considering the huge loss and grief of many people having lost loved ones.

Nevertheless, anyone’s individual feelings are valid, and I know that pretty much everyone of all ages, from preschoolers up to the elderly, have experienced ongoing feelings of loss this year.

It is a particularly open-ended feeling due to not knowing when things will change. It can be especially helpful in these situations to bring a sense of structure and routine into our lives. I make sure to go for a walk every single day, eat at the same times each day, get up and go to bed at the same time, and practise my qigong at the same time daily. These routines are also part of self-care, which is a way of giving ourselves some love that we can feel at a physical level.

Sadness and loss are of course a natural part of life, and when we are grieving a loved one, it is important to acknowledge that we are not trying to ‘tap away’ that feeling or devalue the love that is behind it. Rather, we are clearing any extra edge to the sadness and bringing in the opportunity for regrouping, structure and self-care to nurture ourselves through this challenging period.

*If you are new to tapping, first watch some of my free videos to learn how to tap.*

Please bear in mind these tips for using tapping scripts effectively:

·        Tapping scripts are a guide, to give you ideas of what to say. Tailor it to resonate with YOUR feelings and words. If something doesn’t resonate with you, leave it out or change it to something that works for you. Be specific not global (‘frustrated with too many Zoom meetings’, not just ‘frustrated’).

·        If you get triggered or overwhelmed, drop the words and KEEP TAPPING. Just use No-Words Tapping until you feel calm, and seek the help of a qualified EFT practitioner or other healthcare professional.

·        Say the words out loud as you tap on each of the points.

·        Before you tap, rate your feeling on the topic from 0-10 where 0 is no intensity and 10 is very high intensity. Each time through the points rate it again. Keep repeating the tapping script, changing the words as you need, until you reach 1 or 0. If you get stuck around a 4 or 5, probably something else is coming up – please reach out if you need help.

TAPPING SCRIPT FOR FEELINGS OF SADNESS AND LOSS

Side of the hand: Even though I feel sad at the loss of my former lifestyle, deep down I am OK.

Even though it’s really sad that I can’t do some of the things I used to do freely, that’s how it is right now.

Even though I feel this sadness and loss in my {e.g. chest} and it’s like {e.g. a tight band of tension}, I accept myself and all of my feelings.

Eyebrow: My lifestyle has changed and I can’t do much about it.

Side of the eye: I’ve lost so many activities, places, opportunities, choices and connections that I used to have.

Under the eye: And it feels so sad.

Under the nose: It’s like {e.g. a tight band of tension} in my {e.g. chest}.

Under the mouth: I can’t do some of the things I used to do freely.

Collarbone: This sadness.

Under the arm: This feeling of loss.

Top of the head: This sadness and loss like {e.g. a tight band of tension} in my {e.g. chest}.

Side of the hand: Even though I miss my friends and family, deep down I am OK.

Even though I have lost connections with my loved ones, that’s just how it is right now.

Even though this sadness and loss is like {e.g. a dull grey ache} in my {e.g. heart}, I accept myself and all of my feelings.

Eyebrow: I miss my friends.

Side of the eye: I miss my family.

Under the eye: All the loved ones I miss.

Under the nose: All the connections I’ve lost this past year.

Under the mouth:  It’s like {e.g. a dull grey ache} of sadness in my {e.g. heart}.

Collarbone: This loss and sadness in my {e.g. heart}.

Under the arm: I feel the loss of my loved ones.

Top of the head: It’s like {e.g. a dull grey ache} in my {e.g. heart}.

Side of the hand: Even though I still feel some of this loss and sadness about my former lifestyle and missed loved ones, I choose to create new routines that feel comfortable and secure.

Even though I still feel some of this remaining {e.g. dull grey ache} in my {e.g. chest}, I choose to feel nourished inside myself.

Even though this is a truly difficult time of loss and sadness, I’m sending myself some love and care right now.

Eyebrow: These remaining feelings of loss and sadness.

Side of the eye: Remaining sadness about my lifestyle.

Under the eye: Remaining feeling of missing my loved ones.

Under the nose: I choose to create new routines that feel comfortable and secure.

Under the mouth: I choose to feel nourished inside myself.

Collarbone: I can offer myself some love and care right now.

Under the arm: This remaining {e.g. dull grey ache} in my {e.g. chest}.

Top of the head:  I choose to nourish myself and give myself love and care.

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